Experiencing the Los Angeles Sex/Love Drought? We’ve got you.
Dating in Los Angeles is a fine art which requires patience and persistence. Finding a genuine connection with someone you’re remotely into is easier said than done.
In the game of finding “the one”, do you ever feel like you’re missing some pieces to the puzzle? Don’t fret, you’re not alone. This is a little bit of advice to our single friends out there also experiencing the Los Angeles love drought.
Start with Good Vibes
Firstly, we’re not telling you you’ve got to settle. You definitely have the right to stay single forever and be blissfully happy.
So if you’re loving your single life, or looking for a significant other, we encourage you to develop a healthy relationship with your vibrator - to ensure you’re sexually satisfied in the meantime! This can help to ensure you don’t end up breaking your own rules about hooking up before you’re ready, just because you’re craving an orgasm.
To cover all bases, we recommend Voodoo’s Money Bunny vibrator - it targets both the clitoris and G-spot and offers an earth-shattering orgasm to ensure your solo sex life is thriving at the very least :D
Get Out There
When looking for an intimate relationship with someone, the easiest way to get a date (and ego boost) seems to be by using dating apps.
From OK Cupid!, Bumble, Tinder, eHarmony, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, SoulSwipe, Grindr, The League, and many more, each one serves a different purpose. The negative stigma of online dating is slowly disappearing. In a world where we are on our phones at all times, dating apps are becoming the new wave when finding the special someone. And we all know a couple or two that serve as great online dating success stories.
“40 million Americans are using online dating websites and those users range from young to old. Today, 27% of young adults report using online dating sites, which is up 10% from 2013, likely due to the influx of dating apps on smartphones. For those 55 to 64-year-olds that use online dating, there has been a 6% increase from 2013 to 2015” (eHarmony, Isabel Thottam)
A survey by Statista, an online market research and business portal, revealed that
24% of people use dating sites to find hookups,
43% of people use apps to find friends
84% of people use dating apps to find relationships.
The Paradox of Choice
With 84% of users on dating apps to find a relationship, WHY is it so hard to find “the one”. The answer could be the phenomenon called “The Paradox of Choice”, a term coined by Barry Schwartz, a psychologist and professor of social theory and social action. “The Paradox of Choice” just might be the reason why so many of us are still single. This theory suggests that the amount of options we have hurt us more than help us. Schwartz compares online dating to clothes shopping. “You can try on every dress, every pair of shoes, and every hat, in every color, fit, and style, but if you don't find something that's perfect, you go home empty-handed” (Insider, 2018).
Is Your List of Requirements too Comprehensive?
There never be one partner that can always be the ideal best friend, lover, co-parent, cheerleader to check off your boxes. The solution? To be open other possibilities for the perfect partner. When looking at everything someone is not, you’re choosing not to see everything they already are and have to offer.
For some of us, it may be time to assess our list of “Dealbreakers”. When it comes to your date having Manners, Respect and a Job - keep them on there! But our need for them to have great style, watch the same shows as us, be able to fix our broken furniture and watch rom coms with us…yeah - they’re not real dealbreakers. It’s time we got rid of them.
I challenge you to take dating apps by the balls and go against your usually pattern. Start anew, and who knows, the perfect partner could be a couple swipes away!