The "M" Word

If you cannot first love yourself then how can you teach anyone else to love you…. In bed? The logic of loving yourself is just as important for sexual satisfaction as it is for emotional happiness. Knowing how your body works, which spots are an “oh yes” and which are a “no thank you” is vital information to have before entering into a sexual experience with someone. Learning and exploring together is fun, but if you can’t please yourself then you’ll find difficulty helping someone else attempt to. Masturbation is healthy and anyone who tells you otherwise is just wrong. Orgasms have amazing health benefits. And self-exploration is essential to sexual satisfaction. 


Get to know yourself intimately, feel your body and listen when it tells you something feels good. Get to know the spots that get excited when stimulated and which type of stimulation gets them there. This may be weird at first, if touching yourself is new to you, but I promise it’s worth it. Everyone’s body is so beautifully different that there is no wrong way to do yourself. If it feels good, you’re probably doing it correctly. Remember that lube is your friend, start slow, and pay attention to how you react to different stimulation. Eventually you’ll be the master of your own body, and able to direct others to tease and please you exactly how you like it. 


Masturbation is also wonderfully healthy for you. Touching your genitals for pleasure is one of the most natural and normal parts of being a human, infants do this in the womb. But because of the stigmas that still surround sex, we find taboos around masturbation as well. There are some ridiculous myths surrounding solo sex play; to set the record straight- No, touching yourself does not cause blindness, insanity or infertility, it’s not going to make any of your bits fall off, and no kittens are harmed when you engage in self pleasure. Masturbation CAN improve your immune functions though; the increased cortisol levels help with that.


Women can help prevent cervical cancer by flicking their bean; during arousal the cervix opens, this is called tenting and it enables circulation flushing out fluids filled with bacteria. It will also help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which has a myriad of benefits of its own 💪

When men choke the chicken, it helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer, similar to the female orgasm, it gives the prostate the opportunity to flush out potential cancer-causing agents. Studies have shown that regular masturbation can, for both men and women, reduce stress, blood pressure, and aid with insomnia because of hormonal and tension release. Along with these advantages masturbation also helps with depression by increasing the endorphins in the blood stream. 

At the end of the day you should be taking care of you, loving yourself and living a life that produces happiness. So, go diddle that skittle, fiddle that flesh flute and be your best you! Touching yourself is not going to fix all your problems, but it is a kick starter to a better, happier you, so go fuck yourself.