How Long Is Sex Supposed to Last?

Ahhhh yes, we have all probably wondered whether or not the time of our sexy time is considered “normal” or not. Or possibly us or our partner has come “too quickly” - but what does “too quickly” actually mean?


Okay here’s the deal.

  1. There is no “normal” amount of time, and what you think is normal is objective. But if you are looking for a very specific answer, then here you go. According to a 2005 study from the journal of Sexual Medicine, penetrative vaginal sex that lasted from 1-2 minutes as “too short,” and sex that lasted 10-30 minutes as “too long.” Meanwhile, “adequate” sex lasted 3-7 minutes and desirable sex lasted 7-13 minutes. So there’s a particular answer, but if you ask us, we would say that you and your partner need to define a healthy normal based on your own standards.

  2. There can be many factors in your stamina! So if for some reason you feel as though you do not last “long enough” or would like to get freaky longer, there are some things to consider:

    1. Mental Health: How ya doing?? Are you stressed, anxious, or are you suffering from some sort of PTSD? If so, check out some therapists in your area.

    2. Physical Health: You don’t have to be in tip-top shape to increase your sexual stamina, but an increase in exercise does help. Here you can see 7 exercises that will help.


Look. At the end of the day, communication is key. First of all communication with yourself is the most important thing you can do. Try testing out your stamina with your favorite vibrator, dildo, butt plug. These can help you feel yourself in many ways and determine how much time you need to reach orgasm - if that’s the goal (it doesn’t have to be).

If you have a partner, communicate with them! If you want the sex to be shorter or longer, get to the root of the issue and let them know what it is you need, and how you need it to happen. We promise, once you and your partner are en route to getting on the same wave length, “How long is sex supposed to last” will not be a question you’re pondering too often.

Happy Vibing!