Ever Wondered How To Make A Woman Orgasm? (Pssst, you’ll want to read this!)

The clitoris, clit, bean, button, devil’s doorbell, happy button, bald man in a boat, hooded lady, whatever you want to call it — it’s there and it deserved to be treated with some respect.

I discovered it when I first started exploring myself in high school (and never turned back) but throughout my twenties have found that a large percentage of partners that I’ve fooled around with have think they know about this little magic button, but honestly have no idea. Many go for the wrong parts of This got me wondering how to best explain to them and to the women out there who have had a difficult time finding it themselves.

We started learning about our sexual organs back in middle school, but was the clit ever mentioned?? It most certainly wasn’t in the strict catholic school I attended, but because male ejaculation apparently makes the world go round BUT THAT’S A TOPIC FOR ANOTHER DAY. Back to the clit.

Let’s go back to middle school and learn about the vagina.

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Image provided by helloclue.com.

The vaginal opening is typically the main attraction - where most people spend their time. We discussed in a previous post about the g spot, so feel free to pay that a visit to and spend some time exploring yourself.

The vulva vestibule basically houses your vaginal opening and your urethral opening which is where you pee. Now, your clitoris sits at the verrryyyy top of this. She’s a little lady who packs a big punch so when you, your vibrator, or your parter hit it correctly, you can hear choirs singing and see fireworks exploding. Since this area is packed with, like, 15,000 nerve endings, that makes it super sensitive for a lot of women when directly stimulated which is why it can be pleasurable and often preferred to utilize the clitoral hood - the tissue that covered the clit, and the labia minora and labia majora aka the “lips.”

Hopefully this helps a little. It’s difficulty because again, we were never really taught this and vaginas look so different from one to the other, so it can be confusing for partners to identify how and where to stimulate you. But we need to speak up! So here are some helpful ways to guide either yourself or your partner into Cliss (clitoral bliss):

Let your fingers do the talking! Maybe even add a mirror if you’re curious about your anatomy (we highly encourage if you’ve never done this). You can explore and start rubbing up and down. Begin with the outside of your lips, use your pointer finger and your middle finger, and gently add pressure and moving up and down. Keep adding more and more based on how you are feeling. If you find that you are not sensitive, try going under the hood but know that it is super common to stay over - and let your partners know this as well!

Add a toy! Often, people need some assistance when stimulating the clitoral region and toys are a great way to hit a wide range and help you eventually narrow down your exact zone. Our Pleasure Egg is a great product to start exploring as you will want something around the size of your palm to add some ~ good vibrations ~

Lubrication is your friend. Add a little lube, don’t be annoyed or ashamed if you can’t create enough yourself, it’s there to help you and add to your pleasure! Even when you’re on your own it’s a great aide and FEELS SO GOOD.

Go explore! Let us know what tips, tricks, and stories you have about your clit and your adventures.